I feel bad for my high school friend.
We spoke on the phone for the first time in like six months the other day and she told me of her horror story.
She has an 8-month old baby boy with a guy. He told her that he's got one other kid. That was a lie. He's got at least four other kids with three different women.
He's also still legally married to his estranged (I think it was second) wife. Oh...it gets better. He's got another girlfriend, too. He brought her son over to this other female's house one day and some how...the other woman found out about her.
After telling me this sad tale, my friend told me that if she had to do this again...she would not have kids with him.
Her situation had me thinking. Kids are permanent. As badly as I want kids some day, I would hope that I wouldn't have kids with the wrong woman. You know, the type of woman that would make you regret you created another human being.
What's the wrong woman?
The type that would use the kid(s) as a way to get back at me.
The type of woman that wouldn't care for the kid(s) as well as she takes care of herself.
The type of woman that lives her life through her kid(s) and doesn't let the kid(s) grow up.
I'm sure if I went into deep thought I could think of more examples.
4 comments:
Yeah I feel you on that.
Good thing I don't want any of the lil ragamuffins.
That is why I tell people I am so picky. When I get married, I am only tryna do it once. Divorce is hard, especially with kids.
@cnel...no kids at all?
@epsilonicus...I'm in total agreement. I'm only getting married once and it has to be right the first time. You also forgot that divorce is also expensive.
ugh. i know at least 2 people who are less than pleased w/the baby daddies (one would likely use the term hate). makes me even more careful about familial stuff like having babies.
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