On May 29, she put up this status message...
"I think relationships are for quitters! lol Why quit at being single?"
On May 29, I replied on her wall...
"booooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo @ your status message."
On May 29, she replied on my wall...
"ummm...spchrist, I don't like this "hater-tude!" lol"
On May 29, I replied again on her wall...
"You know that I have NOTHING but love for you...but that status message was too much. lol."
Well...I wasn't the only one that came at her for that comment because she updated her status message on May 30 to say...
"I still think relationships are for quitters even though some of u have tried 2 tell me otherwise! lol I'm no quitter...just a pimpette! lol.''
I just shook my head and laughed again. So, if relationships are for quitters so what are people that want to be married or who are married? I'm not buying that. I think being single is more work because I have to juggle names, numbers, e-mail addresses, etc. I rather just have one female in my life and give my all to her. I'm a quality over quantity type of guy. And being a player, pimp or whatever, or in her case, a pimpette, isn't productive towards long term success. You always get caught up...and that's not what I'm about.
And one more thing....
She removed "single" from her public profile on June 6...so I guess that makes her a quitter now?
Her response...
" lol, nope I'm no quitter...I'm just being mysterious...maybe I'm considering quitting though."
I'm going to pray for her...lol.
6 comments:
Relationships aren't for quitters, sounds to me like someone who just cant get into a relationship that works for her. Relationships are for people who need others to bring joy, love, pain, friendship and satisfaction in your life. Which last time I checked was everyone. By saying relationships are for quitters is actually saying your quitting on finding someone to share things in life with- not just boyfriend/girlfriend relationships but also friendships and family relationships. If you quit on that you're basically quitting on yourself. But I could be over analyzing the situation,
Comments from a couple of friends that don't have blogger accounts.
F.C. said.
"Man, her viewpoint strikes me as sad, but I guess it suits her life. I just hope she's being careful and staying away from the germs. You're funny, though."
B.C. said.
"No, relationships aren't for quitters -- they are for those who perserve all the bull---- and remain loyal to ONE person for a extended period of time and TRY to make it work. Single people in some cases, are just avoiding being committed to someone to fulfill their own selfish needs or insecurities. Either they want their independence or they can't tolerate "deal breakers" while they date and just "put off" meeting people or are unwilling to accept their "casual dating status" because they are displeased with some person who burned them, didn't communicate or ultimaely didn't "do" something they promised and hold it against anyone who could potentially date them. So, they remain single and don't internally figure out -- what they did to contribute to the drama that ensued in that 'past fling' and don't heal -- which is why they continue to casually date -- to find more disappointment or they aren't "getting out there" meeting folks and whine about how they can't "find someone" and yet, again, they are contributing to their own problem.
Recently (within the past two months) me and my boyfriend of one year broke up. It was devasting, but I didn't quit on love and I don't believe that relationships are for quitters. I do believe that being with the wrong person is draining, BUT what I learned from it was that in order to find what you are truly looking for you have 1) accept your partner for who they are, 2) understand that the differences between wants/needs/must haves/bottomlines and 3)communicate with that person regulally.
The adverse to what B.C. said happened to me, because of it...I have a "main squeeze" and 3/4 associates. Associates are guys that I'm talking / dating but for whatever reason making a true commitment is not jumping off. My main squeeze is the guy I 7/8 times out of 10 call my boyfriend. So obviously I can relate to having lingering insecurities, but I find it fun meeting different guys, flirting and seeing what other people can do for you.
My hope is that one day true love will develop from one of these relationships and I will find that MR.RIGHT not MR.RIGHT NOW.
Relationships are for people who are ready to add some meaning to their lives and find one person they can connect with, not quitters. People with that line of thinking need help. And don't pray for her, pray for her man since she'll probably be sleeping around on him.
Relationships take more work but are more rewarding. They are definitely not for quitters!!
A comment from my friend R.C.
"Agree with you completely about the difficulty of being single. A lot of games and shenanigans, acting out of character, and other forms of bullshit. Is this me talking or is it just because I just came back from a wedding? Hmmmm...."
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