The chat started innocently.
He asked about work.
He asked about the love life.
He asked when was the next time I was coming back home to Massachusetts.
I had easy answers for all of those questions. Somewhere in the middle of the sidebar conversation about my sister, he slipped in this nugget.
"You know I'm retiring soon probably within the next two years. It would be nice to have some grandchildren," dad said.
Awwwww.
Damn.
That's like the kryptonite phrase that I couldn't dilute with a prescribed answer. I took a deep breath and gave this answer after about a minute of stalling.
"Ummm. Dad. I'm sorry to disappoint you but you might want to put your money on my sister," I said.
My mother briefly mentioned it two years ago and hasn't brought it up since. I think she's scared to talk about it again. However, my dad mentioned it for the first time on Wednesday night. I told him it wasn't like I wasn't trying to get to that level in my life but I needed some phenomenons to occur.
You know the golden rule: First comes love. Then comes marriage. Then comes spchrist Jr. and my daughther (I'll let the future wife pick the girl's name) in the baby carriages. I mean no disrespect to any single parents that might read this blog but there are just some things I think are done easier with two-fully committed adults. In my opinion, having and raising kids is near that top of that list.
I hate to disappoint my father...I really do...but I had to lower the expectations and also wave the caution flag at least this one time.
8 comments:
Wow! Pops putting the heat on you huh!? :)
I hate hearing that...my mom tried me the other week talking about I think I want 3 grandbabies...
Seeing as I'm 19 & her only child and I think she's gonna be disappointed LOL
my friend at work is nearing her 31st bday. do you know her mom was like "well.. you know you don't have to be married to have kids, right." she was like "HUH?!?! some people might not, but I DO!! can i do me please!?!" my dad says stuff but if i were to pop up preggers w/o the hubby he would be talkin junk from here to mexico.
@tanyetta...Yeah a little. I love my dad and all...so he gets a pass on this. Besides, my mother was the one that opened the Pandora's box. lmao.
@diamondsr4eva...3 grandbabies? Damn. I hoping I can find a woman that would agree to two...nevertheless three. Do, women really want big families still? Or is three not a big family by today's standards?
@jameil1922...well I agree with your co-worker on the kids after you are married tip. At least, if I could plan it...I would have it that way. I don't think my parents, family or friends would disown me if I were to be a father out of wedlock. They know I would be an AMAZING father. But then again, I'm a guy so I probably would not get that type of scrutiny.
Sherlon, I give you credit for letting your dad know that it's not that simple for you right now. My older sister has three children, so obviously my moms is well satisfied in the grandchild department, and that's less pressure on me to meet Ms. Right.
That sucks when your dad starts asking, when mom's are notorious for it. I'm 25 and I'm not hearing it, at least not yet though. All my mom says is she's not taking care of any babies (she wouldn't even keep my dog) And my dad wants me to worry about my career. He didn't even want me to date until I was out of college. He doesn't want me to date now really.
But don't give up just yet. You've got plenty of time....And kids'll make you young!!
@chris...I have frank conversations with my parents all the time. It is good for the soul.
@journiemajor...we'll see about the time thing. I'm not trying to have kids too late into my 30s
Yeah Pops blew up the spot.
I say the same things to my mother, look at your daughter.
I DO NOT want kids.
I dp think you'll make a great dad.
I just know that they better bring their A game to sports in particular, cause you'll definitely be one of those involved and invested parents. You'll be tooting them to school, sports practices, rehearsals for this and that LoL.
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