Tick...Tick...Tick
I'm approaching a very unfortunate anniversary.
July 6, 2006 will be my 2-year anniversary of being single. The problem is I don't want to be single. At this very moment, I'm taking applications for Mrs. Right (note the phrase).
Hold up. I'm not fooling anyone, especially those that have heard this rant prior to this blog entry.
I don't want to repeat this.
I'll settle for Miss Right Now (note the phrase) and even throw in a signing bonus. Yes, the nationwide search is in full effect but I would strongly prefer a New Jersey candidate because that is where I live and work. I'm not a fan of LDRs (long distance relationships) and I've tried it before with little success.
But is Mrs. Right in New Jersey?
Or is Miss Right Now in New Jersey?
Well, I'm starting to think these women don't live in Monmouth County (the county I live in) and I knew the Census Report numbers weren't outstanding before I move here. However, my rationale was there HAS TO BE a hidden gem but I'm coming ever-so-close to waving a white flag (with both hands).
My situation was exacerbated when i found out another friend was getting married. I was happy for my friend but I said underneath my breath (why couldn't this be me?). I'm starting to think I'll be the last one down the aisle...sss-hhh-ooo-ooo-ttt...I might never get there at this rate. I'll turn 27 in August and I thought by now I would be married and have at least one kid on the way.
Neither has happened.
Tick...Tick...Tick
22 comments:
you been lacing your beef patties estrogen lately?
LOL @ pops. Yeah, I didn't know dudes had a biological clock. But either way, I'll tell you the same thing I tell my girlfriends who are yearning for that ring and white picket fence: don't stress. Love will find you when you're ready for it. Enjoy this season of single selfishness because once you get married, it's time out for that. And if you really want kids right now, adopt.
I agree with T dot. You're still a young and spry young man, you have plenty of time for that. You just get yourself situated first, and then love will come. This is just the path God wants to take you down right now. Don't worry, Mrs. Right will be there when you get to that point. You don't need a Miss Right Now. You should work on being happy single. Otherwise, you can't make someone else happy.
don't be thirsty. women can sense desperation in a guy the same way men can. counting how long you've been single is a sign of extreme thirst.
lol @ anonymous...I've hit a breaking point and I'm not afraid to admit it.
@ t dot.....(coughs)...you could try to hook a brother up...
I'll tell you what folks say all the time...
Patience my dear, patience....
You'll be making sperm till you die so don't worry about the wife and kid thing rite' nah!
First of all...Why are you having an anniversary for lonliness? Sounds like you are waddeling in your perceived misery, to me.
Don't get me wrong, I recently wrote a post along the same lines, but without the Woo is Me melody playing in the background. The difference is that I don't think you realize your self worth.
As a man, I believe the ball is in your court. I believe that you are in control of this situation. Get yourself together, get a clear sense of what you want in a woman and go get it. There are plenty of intelligent, attractive and funny women out here waiting to be snatched up. But, as some one on here mentioned, we can smell desperation and it stinks.
@ladynay...."at making sperm till I die"...that was a good line. But I'm not trying to have kids past 40 and I'm more than halfway to that.
man I've had the same musings and thoughts, but right now, I'm at a stage where I don't give a ****...I've got a degree and a career to tend to.
what the hell is the signing bonus? i need to know if i'm directing people your way. lmao. LDR isn't going to work w/someone you don't know b/c it requires an inordinate amt. of trust. it's very interesting to hear a man in this dilemma. don't worry. its much easier for you to get married than a woman. find solace in that for now.
I'm wit T Dot though I feel you, and you do wonder why "A Good Black Man" isn't the black man that you may often see some of our women wit. Yes, I said wit. Sometimes you can't help but start contemplating why you are the one waiting. Your queen will come.
Patience is a virtue young grasshopper.
i definitely feel you sp. it's interesting how when you're single the prospects are nonexsitent and once you're involved the phone can't stop ringing. God has an interesting sense of humor. Once you start reveling in your singleness women will start pouring in. Spend some more time with friends and family. Volunteer and workout. If all that fails there's always Indianapolis. ;-)
I feel the same way lately..in a way I do in a way I dont....relatoinships keep me happy and safe...but I know there is nothing for me in Boston....how can I say that? Hmmm I been dating Boston men for the past 10 yrs and NOTHING..not one single proposal..>Im good enough to fawk but not good enough to marry.....But then when a dude watns to be with me and I shut him down..imma bitch and i dont know what im missing...blah blah blah......Im meeting alot of dudes with BIOLOGICAL clocks.....IN the past week alone, 2 different dudes was at me tryna get me to settle down..one even hinted marriage...but i shut that shit down QUICK...........and of course, tehy are all older than me so they are done with their life I still have a lot of living before i die.
These things take time buddy...hell it took GP 16 years to get a ring...be patient because if you're not it could heart your heart and your pocket in the long run.
Dog...You're killin me. Who has an anniversary for being single. You're a little too honest homeboy. But since you're looking, you should be hollerin' at a couple of these ladies leaving comments....just a suggestion.
As for the rest of your blog, you gotta be makin' all that sh** up. Truth is stranger than fiction for real and YOU need a reality show.
P.S. Shouts to t-dot just for having that name...keep reppin'
@hoopdreamz....I'm glad you found some entertainment in this...that is one of my goals with this blog. Yah...you are right...I should be hollering at the single ladies that have left entries. Sadly, the rest of the stories that were linked in this blog entry are true and I wish they weren't. I still don't know which incident makes me laugh more...the Wishy Washy Chick or the Hurricane Chick. I would also listen to any offers for a reality show. Yeah...t-dot has the best response so far
How about you put down thep ad and pen and start looking for the majority of what you want. Remember, there are ways to change a chick into exactly what you want her to be, just as she can do to you...
First of all, cool blog!
Now to the subject at hand. You're 26. When it comes to marriage/kids, etc., you're young. Don't get me wrong, it's great that you're so mature and marriage-minded (I wish there were more of you!), but I know way too many people who married at 25 or 26, and quite a few of them are divorced and/or unhappy. Marriage is a huge undertaking and shouldn't be taken lightly. Chill out and most importantly, be patient. The right person will come.
@chanel...do you have any friends in New Jersey?..you could help a brother out. (Smile).
OK, so you're feeling like this and you're not even 27? Baby, I just turned 30! Damn! You gotta love you and your life and be happy with yourself, alone - before anyone will be happy with you. Nobody is responsible for your happiness but you. When you are content with your own life, others will be drawn to you - and they will be free to enjoy your company without obligation (read: without being guilted into it).
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