"I'm separated"

So, a female friend's boyfriend wants to play "matchmaker" for me.

I was at a party on Sunday night when he brings up the idea up of me talking to his female cousin. I probably should have shut the idea down on the spot but I let him finish his speech.

I'm paraphrasing here but he basically said..."she's a good woman, she is in her low 30s, she has a son and really deserves someone nice like you." He gave me his cousin's number and told me to give her a call.

So, I called her on Tuesday night and we spoke on the phone for an hour and a half.

She's 33. She has a 10-year-old-son. She works as a nurse's aide. She's separated from her husband. How long has she been separated from her husband...4 years.

(record scratching sound)

Hmm. I asked her why she or her husband haven't just gone through with the divorce if they have been separated for 4 years and according to her are never gettting back together. She said it costs too much and they are both comfortable with the "I'm separated" title for now.

I'M NOT.

You're still legally married to another man. I also can't be serious or take a woman serious that is comfortable with the "I'm separated" title. I just can't.

So...I asked her some other tough questions.

Me: Do you want to get married again?

Her: I'm not sure. I was married for 10 years and it didn't work out. So, I would really have to feel something for me to do it again.

Hmm...I didn't like that answer since I'm a man that wants to get married and I don't need a woman with pre-determined cold feet dragging herself down the aisle a second time.

Me: Do you want to have more children?

Her: If I do, only one more.

Hmm...I didn't like that answer either since I'm a man that wants at least 2 children since I have none now.

I guess I don't have to tell you how I'm leaning on this one.

Would you deal with someone that says "I'm separated?"

Have you ever dealt with someone that was separated? How did it turn out?