Wishy-Washy Chick…R.I.P.

The time of death was approximately 2:14 a.m. on Sunday, Nov. 27th.

I made my last phone call to the “wishy-washy chick” formerly known as Tamara. I was on my way home from a night on the town with my best friend Junior (I should have been out with Tamara…Junior was my backup plan) and I was returning a tardy voicemail from Tamara.

At 9:48 a.m. on Saturday, I sent Tamara the following text message, “My sister said u are a wishy-washy chick and bet me $20 that u will not show up. I laughed so hard I fell out of bed and told her she had a bet.”

At 12:23 p.m., Tamara calls me and said she received my text message. She sort of laughed it off. She said that she had just left work and was on her way home. She said she had to run some errands for her mother and then she was going out with her family at 8 p.m. She said as soon as she is done with her errands she would call me and we would go out to make up for her standing me up the last time I was in Massachusetts (that was a promise made two weeks prior and reinforced on Saturday).

Well, as you probably guessed, Tamara didn’t make that phone call in time and I went with plan B (my sister is now $20 richer). She did return my phone call at 1:54 a.m. on Sunday but at that point my mind was already made up.

I had to treat Tamara like a telemarketer and put her on the DO NOT CALL list. I deleted her numbers from my cell phone. I will never call her again. I will never respond to any correspondence from the “wishy-washy chick” again. No apology, no act of affection or no good deed could make up for the 15th time that she has stood me over a four-year span.

I met Tamara through http://www.blackplanet.com/ in the spring of 2001. After flirting back and forth through the spring, we planned our first date that summer (it was a blind date because she didn’t have a picture on her blackplanet page). She stood me up on our first date and didn’t call me until the next day (I know what you’re thinking) but she had a good reason. Her brother was in a car accident that night and he was in serious condition in the hospital. I told her “no problem and I hope that your brother was alright. We can reschedule when your life gets back to normal."

We eventually had the first date and several more dates and I could tell there was a definite spark between us.

Now, in the fall of 2001, I met my ex-girlfriend and I put Tamara on the backburner (in the friend only zone). When my ex-girlfriend broke up with me in July of 2004, every female friend of mine, Tamara included, became more appealing to me. I’ve been single (by choice) for a year and four months now and if I started another relationship any time soon; Tamara would have been the one for me.

Now, that plan is up in smoke as I heaved the last pile of dirt on the friendship/friends with benefits relationship with Tamara. She did have some very good qualities and she did live up to expectations quite a few times but when she let me down it was a biggie like the size of a moon crater.

The positives with Tamara were that she was a very sweet, college-educated, slightly independent (she picked up the tab often without hesitation sometimes), cute sista with some USDA grade-A junk in the trunk. She was a god-fearing woman with a wonderful voice and could rock the microphone better than any woman I have ever seen.

The negatives with Tamara were that she was a dreadful kisser (I gave her proper lessons of course but she was a terrible student), she was extremely forgetful, she broke 15 dates in four years, she lived at home and was such a goody two-shoes that she always had to be home before 1 a.m. (even on the weekends and holidays). I never met her family (mother, father or brother) and never went inside of her house but she met my mother and my sister and she has been to my mother’s house several times (day and night).

So, my question to you is would you have pulled the plug on Tamara (or someone of the opposite sex with similar characteristics) or would you have kept her/him on life support a little longer praying that they would wake up out of the coma?